How a man feels when you wound his sensitive pride

How a man feels when you wound his sensitive pride 
By Tanui Ruth

After reading this book, ‘Secrets of fascinating woman hood’ 

by Helen Andelin, I can say that I feel

happier, more lovely, more feminine and in the process of developing my full potential as a woman. Any type of a woman who aspires to have a happy family will definitely subscribe to “Happy husband, happy family”. The sad thing is that most women do not know how to handle a man especially at his lowest point of time or when discouraged. This is when most of us as women take advantage of the situation and attack men in order to pay back for the pain they might have caused us at one point but not realizing that                                                                                        (Photo from google)

it can cause a long-term damage. This might lead to belittling him which may lower his self-esteem. The one thing that a woman needs to know about dealing with a man is how to manage his male pride.

 A man’s in-born masculine pride is so sensitive, that if challenged by a woman, the hurt cuts him deep like a knife. This often arouses instant anger and harshness. Sometimes it results in physical violence, but more often, in deep resentment. A man cannot bear to have his fragile and sensitive pride belittled or ridiculed by his wife, or any other woman. A woman can deeply hurt a man’s pride without even realizing it. A woman’s words can cause him mental pain. This is why so many men erect an invisible wall around themselves. A wall of silence, to protect against this pain. They may stop confiding in women, and only rarely have long conversations with them. They will not share with the opposite sex their innermost feelings, in as much as they want to do so. Such a situation can be highly felt by a wife in a marriage. She ends up hurt and despairs of ever breaking through his wall of silence. Yet she will most likely hear her husband confiding to others. Sharing his thoughts and problems in a way that he never does with her. This causes her much unhappiness. 

A woman can laugh or mock some masculine quality about a man or she can compare him unfavorably with other men. When she does that, especially in front of others, he ends up feeling belittled. He may not say a word, but his affection for the woman has been destroyed. If it continues over a long period, the man will numb his senses to minimize further hurt, sometimes with the help of alcohol, or even drugs. 

Women are often led by their emotions and when angry, they will most likely take it out on a man in an undesirable manner such as shouting, screaming, abusing or calling the man names that belittle him. They should learn that it is much easier to take time and explain themselves in such a way that they can be understood. In this way, the man is also motivated to find out where he went wrong and finds a heart that wants to change for the sake of the woman he loves.

                                   

For more information, read from a related blog, “Never, Ever Hurt a Man’s Pride” at 

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